10 Years and Counting

As of today Jamie and I have been married a decade. Every day, I am thankful that I was lucky enough to meet her.

The accepted knowledge these days is that to have a successful marriage, you have to be two independent people; you are likely to have arguments, but that these can be worked out. That’s not the case for us. Jamie is very much a part of who I am, and the part of who I am that I like the most. And we almost never argue. I thought this was strange at first, and we tried for a few years to start arguments, but it never really worked.

I hope I can be as good a spouse over the next decade as Jamie has been over the last ten years. We’re moving into a new phase in our lives. Jamie, having supported me through graduate school–in every way–is now back in school. I am very proud of the way she has excelled in her law program. I think that she increasingly sees herself through my eyes, and in my eyes she is perfect. We will certainly have new challenges, especially with new members of the family, but even when everything else in my life is unsure, I can always turn to her for certainty.

So many people get married for so many wrong reasons, it’s easy to forget how good it can be. I can’t imagine the last ten years in any other way. If I had the chance to get married to Jamie today, I would jump at it, and I look forward to spending the rest of my life with my love and my best friend.

Jamie: everyone I know already knows this, and I know you know this: I love you and I always will.

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  1. Posted 6/27/2003 at 1:17 pm | Permalink

    Congratulations to you both!

  2. Posted 6/27/2003 at 1:23 pm | Permalink

    Congratulations Alex and Jamie. You two are very lucky to have found each other. May the next ten years honor you with joy and happiness.

  3. Posted 6/27/2003 at 3:49 pm | Permalink


  4. Jeff
    Posted 6/27/2003 at 5:09 pm | Permalink

    Last Sunday my family held a party for my grandparents 50th wedding anniversary. After dining with both of you and seeing how well you compliment each other, I have no doubt that you’re well on your way. Mazeltov!

  5. Nicole
    Posted 6/27/2003 at 7:10 pm | Permalink

    Congratulations on a successful ten years together and best wishes for many, many more.

  6. Jenn
    Posted 6/27/2003 at 7:28 pm | Permalink

    Go maire tu an la!!! (That’s how my Irish family says congratulations.) You are a great couple and I wish you nothing but the best in the future!

  7. Posted 6/28/2003 at 7:40 am | Permalink

    Thank you all for your warm wishes. We went to dinner, a movie, and shoe shopping, and neither of us spent any time on work all day long, which may not seem like a celebration to many people, but it did to us. :)

  8. Posted 6/28/2003 at 4:49 pm | Permalink

    what a beautiful post, what a beautiful relationship. mazel tov, and congratulations. i hope that jamie will be in toronto. i remember meeting her for thirty seconds in minnesota but that doesn’t really count and i’d love to meet her and introduce you two to iole in toronto.

  9. Posted 6/28/2003 at 7:36 pm | Permalink

    Thank you, David. I’ll look forward to it.

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  11. Posted 6/29/2003 at 12:05 pm | Permalink

    Congratulations! It’s refreshing to hear about such a wonderful and promising relationship. Best wishes for the next 10 years and the many more that will surely follow!

  12. Posted 6/30/2003 at 8:46 am | Permalink

    Go, Alex! Go, Jamie! Three cheers!

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  14. Ebony
    Posted 7/1/2003 at 8:11 am | Permalink

    That is so beautiful. I am so happy for you. Ten years and no arguments, that is great. As you know I just got married on Saturday and I hope that I am able to say the same 10 years from now. So far marriage is great and I don’t know what I would do without my Dennis. It was truly a blessing for us to find one another and I am hoping and praying that we have a lifetime of happiness.

  15. Jane
    Posted 7/1/2003 at 5:53 pm | Permalink

    A belated mazel tov! Sending an e-wish for many happy — and mostly legal :) — decades to come to my favorite pancake partners. When I grow up I want to be just like you.

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